The Dance of the Angry Lady is an Interesting Dance. A therapist once told me that I should spend more time examining my anger, primarily because I didn’t appear to have much.... however, at the same time the tension in my jaw was at a point where it would be so painful that it would put me flat out on my back, unable to speak. Over the years I slowly got in touch with my anger and the jaw tension melted away like snow in spring. Things, people, situations started to piss me off in appropriate and healthy moments when something wasn’t right for me...I found my boundaries in that agitation. When I found my boundaries I clearly and profoundly found myself in an entirely new way. I found the wall that says this is what I need, this is what works for me, and this is what doesn’t. I also learned how to love in a much more selfless and authentic fashion giving only when it felt true, and when I deeply wanted to give from my soul not because I needed to please anyone. Without boundaries we cannot truly love ourselves or others, and anger is the edge of knowing that boundary.
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| Photo By Allen Wyler
Anger has been hard for women over the years, seen as unloving, Bitchy, unattractive...but anger aligned with knowing what does and doesn’t work for you is simply personal power. This year we celebrate 100 years of women having a right to vote, a right to have a voice. So On this International Women’s Day I encourage you to become curious about your anger, to feel when your walls are being breached, to use your voice to connect to your center and to love and express the truth within.
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